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How to Make Difficult Decisions During Labor

Cashie Evans
· · Updated Jan 16, 2026 · 4 min read
Having to make difficult choices while you're in labor may be one of the hardest and most frustrating things you'll have to do. Before consenting to certain procedures during labor, you'll want to know exactly what you are consenting to.

Many moms don't ask the correct questions--the ones that get them the answers they need before making big decisions. The following steps will assist you in asking the right questions--to make the best decisions regarding care of you and your baby.

 

11 Steps to Make Difficult Decisions During Labor

How to Make Difficult Decisions During Labor

 

1. When A Doctor Or Nurse Suggests Having A Procedure Done, Ask Exactly What The Procedure İs And How İt's Done

Many times, we don't know exactly how something is done and we consent to it anyway. It is very important that you know how it is performed and if it will be painful or uncomfortable to either you or the baby.

 

2. Ask Why This Procedure İs Being Suggested

Is it a timing issue? Is it because your doctor thinks that your labor won't progress without it? Or, is it being done out of convenience?

 

3. Ask Whether İt İs An Experimental Or New Procedure

This is really important when it comes to using certain types of medications to start/stop or augment labor. Pharmaceutical companies are constantly developing new medications and you have the right to know if you're being the medical experiment.

 

4. Ask How İt Will Affect Your Recovery

For instance, if you receive an epidural, you have a chance of experiencing back pain after birth. Make sure you know how it may make you feel.

 

5. Ask How The Procedure Will Affect You, The Baby And Your Labor

Will it speed things up or does it have the potential to slow things down? If it is a medication, what are the effects on the baby? What will happen if this procedure or medication hinders your labor?

 

6. Ask About The Alternatives To This Procedure

What else can you try? If you need pain relief, what about using natural coping mechanisms like hydrotherapy or Lamaze techniques, or other non-invasive things?

 

7. Be Sure That You Know The Benefits Of The Procedure

What can it potentially do for you and your labor? How often does this procedure work the way it's supposed to?

 

8. Many Doctors And Nurses Are Quick To Boast About The Benefits Of Different Procedures, However, They Shy Away From The Risks

This is important. You need to ask about the risks of anything you have done to you. What are the risks of elective inductions, elective cesareans, pitocin, epidurals and forceps delivery? What harm can it do you? What can happen to the baby?

 

9. Ask İf This Certain Procedure Happens To All Women Or İs İt Specific To Your Situation

You'd be surprised at how many procedures are routine at hospitals.

 

10. Ask İf This Procedure Can Be Delayed

What harm is there in waiting? For instance, breaking the amniotic sac. Does it really benefit the mother to have it ruptured at 2 or 3 centimeters dilated? Or, is it better in your situation to wait until you are 7 or 8 centimeters, or perhaps let it break on its own?

 

11. Ask What Will Happen İf You Just Let Your Labor Progress Without Doing Anything To İt

Sometimes, the best thing to do is to leave things alone. Labor, especially for a first time mom, takes time. If there are no complications barring necessary interventions, just leave it alone.

 

Tips and Warnings

  • Always approach the nursing staff with respect. Respectful questions have a better chance of getting respectful and honest answers.
  • If you have a true emergency situation, there may not be time for decisions. If this happens to you, make sure that you speak with someone after the birth to gain clarity.
 

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Cashie Evans

Cashie is a freelance writer covering a variety of topics, including parenting, tips and tricks. She took her love of writing to the Web. Cashie attended Louisiana State University and received her bachelor’s degree in 2009.

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